OK, imagine a Mother, just given birth to a beautiful little baby, so full of love and warmness for her little bundle of joy.
She has a loving friend. Her friend, however, though dearly would love children, hasn’t conceived, so far. She feels a big hole in her life, a yearning.
The Mother’s little baby brings lots of joy that is shared with everyone that the baby meets. Everyone is being in a position (a 'state') of love and warmth, totally adoring this little baby. The Mother’s friend, of course, loving this baby too.
What happens next?
Well, how long is a piece of string?
The best outcome, I think, depends on whether all can keep being in the position of love/understanding.
The Mother could go through other feelings too, perhaps of wanting to protect her unit - it is her baby after all. Or even resentment for the bonds that others have with her baby.
The friend, also, could go through other feelings, perhaps sadness for understanding a current gap in her life or resentment to the Mother for already having what she may see as everything, or maybe frustration for her friend not understanding her situation etc.
Whatever feelings are emoted, from both, will be sensed, at some level, from the other person, perhaps then toing and froing, reinforcing. If resentment were to start, from either party, it could escalate into not even wanting to be around each other anymore. The emotions would be felt by little baby too, so baby would learn ‘resentment’ subliminally. There may be frustration also from the friend who may feel that she cannot be allowed to love so much or to have a bond with the Mother's baby. Loving bonds would be damaged or broken in this scenario.
The best outcome, I think, depends on whether all can keep being in the position of love/understanding. There is no ‘guilty’ party in this case and without ‘judgement’ but only loving understanding would the bonds continue to grow cleanly.
The Mother, keeping in loving understanding position, will be able to understand her friend’s situation now. If she senses any negative emotions from herself or her friend she can understand it, forgive it and let it pass by. She can feel secure too in the fact that she ‘is’ the baby’s Mother and it’s OK too for lots of people to feel love and care for her little bundle, love is not exclusive; being secure too in the feelings of the most special unique bond that only she will ever have with her baby.
The friend, keeping in a loving understanding position, will be able to understand any ‘wobbles’ or vulnerability that the Mother may have and again, if she senses any negative emotions from herself or her friend she can understand it, forgive it and let it pass by.
Of course, there is no need for any of this ‘understanding’ malarkey if all constantly are in the state of ‘love’.
And here, it seems, is our big challenge in life, to live and ‘be’ in a position of love…. Always.
I love, and yet sometimes I don’t, and that’s OK too. One day I want to be just as that little bundle of joy, before it learnt that some things were ‘ouchy’… Loving and being full of joy in the amazingness of life and being free to express it, in EVERY moment. Hey, why not, isn't it true, the more of what we focus on is what we manifest into our worlds?
Love to you all.... well.. only if you like my post! ;O)
Jayne
18.10.2001
